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"Do you know when you'll be speaking to the band?" an inquiry reads. "My request was to ask if I can be their extra sister."

There is only one problem: I also longs to be Haim's additional sibling. Furthermore, we are far from alone. Several celebrated admirers have openly begged for the position.

It's clear an irresistible appeal is happening. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana began their path playing gigs at small eateries with their parents. Now they're multiple Grammy Award nominees.

Like all the best bands, they're a tight-knit gang. Their videos often depict them walking in harmony down the roads of Los Angeles. During performances, they perform with such unfettered exuberance you inevitably think, "I want to be involved in that, too."

"The numerous instances on tour that fans approached us and said, 'Watching you live, I picked up a bass'," remarks Alana, the most junior of the Haim siblings. "That's the biggest compliment. It is a prize in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can motivate people to make music."

"And thus everyone gets an invitation to be the fourth Haim sister."

Historic Milestone

The band have called into a break, where they're resting up after an extensive tour in promoting their latest album, I Quit.

They're presently processing the news it's been nominated for best rock album at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the first female band ever in consideration for the prize.

"I watch the nominations every year, so it kind of feels like a surreal movie when your name is read out," says Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this correctly or am I imagining things'?"

The importance of the nomination isn't lost on the trio.

"We deliberately set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a major milestone," says Alana. "However we're just appreciative for the female artists that paved the way."

Emotional Upheaval and Candor

The album was born from a phase of emotional upheaval. All three sisters ended up single, and the music captures that strange liminal space where you're glad to be free, but not yet ready to let go.

The themes follow breakups and goodbyes. The sisters want love, but not the relationships they've had. You can hear them working out in real time who they want to be.

"That's a perfect summary, yes," agrees Danielle. "I Quit is like a slogan. You have to actively work on shutting out the criticism and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Development of Style

That recent toughness demanded a fresh approach – more raw and immediate than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that began with the drum sound.

"The drum sound is such a detailed thing, and I am so passionate about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our memoir," jokes Alana. "I always say, our albums cannot begin until we find the right drum sound."

Stories and Collective Camaraderie

The trio's openness fueled the album's marketing, where the sisters revealed some of their dating tales.

One man broke up with Este over a medical consideration. Alana shared a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"Experiencing these breakups, you just feel like there's no light," explains Alana. "So to be able to laugh at those stories and hear others tell you even crazier stories, it's therapeutic."

A Confident Future

One can easily sense a evolution in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their standing in the music world.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an global audience.

But the sister act will forever be their number one focus.

"My sisters and I have been performing since I was four," says Alana. "There is no alternative that we were supposed to do. And I'm really grateful we've gotten here and we're still making music."